“Fleur, what do you want?” my VP asked me today. “I just want to write,” I replied. He leaned back and smiled. “See, this is what I remember so vividly from the first conversation we had,” he said. “If that’s what you want, that’s what you should do. When you really want something and you’re good at it, the rest will follow.”
With these words, he lifted all the weight off my shoulders.
What if someone calls your wish ‘career limiting’?
I had been going back and forth between accepting a new internal job or staying in my current role (where I’ve only been for just over a year!). This new job ticks all the right boxes and would accelerate my career. I was told that staying in my role would be ‘career limiting’. The problem: I don’t like what I would be doing in that new role. I know that it just wouldn’t make me happy, while my current job gives me everything I want and more. It makes my heart beat faster. I never thought I would be able to say this, but I love my job. Not all day every day, but I think at least 90% of the time I’m happy with what I do. I get to write, be creative, try new things, while I’m still working on a strategic level where I write for the most senior leaders of our company.
Is it simple or does it just sound simple?
It sounds so simple right? Just do what you love. And I thought I was good at it. After all, I’m the biggest advocate of ‘follow your heart’ when I speak to friends with doubts. I thought I knew, until I faced this dilemma. Am I ready to already potentially close some doors? Or should I just suck it up for a year or two and then enjoy the benefits?
During that conversation that I had with my VP, all of a sudden things became clear. Do you know that feeling, when the fog lifts and you can breath again?
Looking back, I realised that for me it all came down to the answers to these two questions:
Does the job make you happy?
Does it help you get to where you want to go to?
Ideally the answer to question #1 is always yes. But sometimes you just have to do something which you don’t like to get where you want to be – it’s like an investment in your future. If the answer to both questions is no, it’s simple: don’t do it.
Only you know what you really want, what your dreams are and where you want to go, so the only one you should really listen to is yourself.